Race and dating preferences
If someone were to question the nature of your group brunch photo — the one of you and 30 white gay friends — you wouldn’t be able to avoid critique by saying, “it’s just a preference that I only eat brunch with white people.” You can insist on your racist beliefs, but you don’t get to advertise them free of consequences. It's not just past racism that shapes modern “preferences” either, the present media is also responsible.
To unpack and understand what makes sexual preferences racist, you have to understand that anti-blackness is a core American value. But before we get there, we need to talk about the most common defenses of your sexual “preferences”: This is a false equivalency and there’s this thing called intersectionality.
We are deviation from the “norm” — the “norm” being white.
We all know that “All-American boy” and "boy next door" is coded language for “white.” The centering of whiteness as the norm puts all non-white people in a position of inferiority.
Let’s be clear: your only “preference” is to perpetuate racism without criticism.
Now, now, before you get your Andrew Christians in a bunch, I’m willing to admit that it’s not entirely your fault — you’ve been had.