Internet dating etiquette guidelines
Author Laura Zinn opines, and I agree, “Be exactly who you are, though this means you’ll get rejected.” That is, until the person who loves everything about you comes along!
I know this election, in particular, has been extremely divisive, but this is not the time to start sharing your opinions on politics or any other possibly fiery topics. We just avoid those topics because we are adults and enjoy our friendship. The woman you’re talking to is a human being, not an object. I know men tend to just say what enters their heads without passing it through a filter.
That doesn’t mean I use them all the time, but at least I know what they are.
Online dating, like anything else, has some etiquette rules everyone should follow.
On every topic that exists, I have some friends on one side and some on another. Be respectful, be engaging, and be excited to meet them. This doesn’t mean you now can blast invites over Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, Kik, Whats App, Tumblr, Linked In, or You Tube.
While both men and women do this, I find the ladies do it a bit more.
Should I follow the traditional or the modern rules?
The idea is to be patient and thoughtful before making a decision.
However, a lot of people aren’t using online dating to their best benefit.If you draw out a position that is different from yours right off the bat, you might completely discount the person. It prompts interesting discussions and opens our eyes to multiple sides of an issue, so keep your convo light and fun at the beginning. It can be understandable in person when they get their wires crossed and trip over their tongue. When I am instructing my male clients, I tell them to imagine they are talking to their sister or grandmother at first. The flirting can come later after you’ve had a few emails or calls.However, if you spent some time getting to know them and have built a foundation of mutual respect and, hopefully, interest, then you can start to share more controversial topics. However, when you’re online, you have plenty of time to think about your message. You are a human being first and a potential mate second. You know their real name and possibly their social media handles.It makes sense as women are usually more communicative than guys. Learn about each other in person instead of scrolling through their posts.When you’re smitten, you want to know and learn everything about your new flame, and it can come across as needy and smothering.