Dating a widow with children
A late spouse was most probably a very big part of your new partner's life and to get upset every time his/her name is mentioned makes for a very uncomfortable situation - for both of you.
It is important, especially at the beginning of a relationship, to allow the widow/er to talk freely about his or her late spouse.
Keep in mind that the heart is a very accommodating organ.
It can expand to let new people in without kicking out the old residents.
Know what to expect on anniversaries, birthdays and other days that were special to your new partner and his/her late spouse.
Being aware and understanding about another person's feelings allows you to be gracious and sensitive to your new partner.
That is very good news for you and your new relationship!
PICTURES OF A LATE SPOUSE Perhaps when you first start dating, there are many pictures of a late spouse around your new partner's home.
LEARN ALL ABOUT GRIEF Do some research about grief, read books and talk to others in similar situations.This is where I stand, as I consider dating once again. Gabriel developed epilepsy from a traumatic brain injury he sustained after being hit by a drunk driver 10 years prior, and he died from something known as Sudden Unexplained Death in Epilepsy (SUDEP). He was a minister of music, a gifted singer, drummer and pianist; I am a Christian minister, and was the guest preacher.It was two days after our third wedding anniversary. He told me he knew I was the one after he heard me preach. I will never forget the way he smiled at me from behind the church organ.The older women at my church love to tell me the stories of how they or their mothers didn’t remarry until their children graduated from high school. Besides, I know how serious marriage is and what it takes to keep it together, especially during the tough times. ” As I reflect on the woman I’ve become after surviving such a devastating blow, what man wouldn’t want me with all of this? Lauren Jones is an Itinerant Elder in the African Methodist Episcopal Church (AME) and serves in the Washington, DC metropolitan area.She blogs at about her adventures as a mother and minister.